RELIGIOUS CONVERSIONS AND PLURALISM
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I am much closer to a reformed Jew than the orthodox. No,
I am not Jewish, I am a Muslim. But on the issue of conversion I am in
tune with the Orthodox Jews - I have chased many people away seeking to
convert to Islam, I asked them to spend that time in learning about
their own faith, something they are familiar with and at times have
shared the wisdom of their religion.
Being an Atheist for half of
my life, I chose Islam, not because it is superior, but because I was
familiar with it and it suited my belief in pluralism. If not, any
faith would have been a good vehicle for social living in harmony. By
the way Judaism, Islam and Hinduism are closer to Atheism - God is not a
being or a thing in these faiths and you cannot give an acceptable
image either. While Hinduism sees it in many forms, Islam and Judaism null
Anyone who boasts that his religion is superior, better, oldest, wisest, scientific, logical etc, has not really understood his or her religion. Religion is about humility that builds bridges, mitigates conflicts and nurtures goodwill. To claim any hint of superiority is killing the essence of religion- arrogance is the mother of all conflicts and religion is about peace and not conflicts.
should have the freedom to eat, drink, wear or believe whatever one
wants, however, I don't see the need for conversion, there is nothing
wrong with the religion you believe in, it works for you, its like your
mother. But if you want change, you should go for whatever religion suits you without any guilt or restrictions.
This is my response to an article, "Why Is It So Hard To Convert to Judaism?"
If you look to religion from Mr. Spock's perspective,
you see religion as an instrument to bring "togetherness" within an
individual and with what surrounds him or her - life and matter. All
religions serve the same purpose.
None of the Masters wanted to
create a group to be against the other, all they were interested was in
creating societies where no individual had to live in fear of
the other. They wanted everyone to subscribe to the idea of social
harmony and respecting life of the other as their own.
of them from Zoroaster, Moses, Confucius, Krishna, Buddha, Mahavira,
Jesus, Muhammad, Nanak, Bahaullah, umpteen Shamans in native traditions
to the peace makers like Gandhi, MLK and others wanted to build cohesive
societies. And NONE of them wanted any one to convert against
something, but rather to be the inclusive individual.
Very few of
us have seriously questioned the need to convert, or even questioned
the veracity of the claims that Jesus or Muhammad wanted people to
convert - convert to a good human or specific political group that is
opposed to others? In another decade, more of us will be questioning,
and Religion would become a beautiful choice for personal consumption
rather than political instrument to control others.
said, "First Hillel converts, and then Hillel teaches. First you join
and then, once you are a vested member, you figure out what it is all
about." Indeed, Muslims have made conversion easy - just say that you
believe in one God and Muhammad (pbuh) is his prophet. Then comes
learning about Islam and living a life of Islam. Most people get their religion rights, a few don't, and make a mess for others.
What amazes me
with all religions is - they have forced religion into outwardly
appearances and names. That is the first thing a convert is looking for;
how do I look Jewish, Muslim, Hindu, Christian or whatever. I wish we
all redefine us in terms of character reflection rather than caps,
clothes, beards and wears.
We have reduced religion into "appearance" rather than imbuing its essence that is to make you a contented happy being.
I go into a place of worship, and I have been to every place, what I
see is the devotion of the individual, and not the physical movements,
it is the humility that permeates him or her and not the show off. It is
the same devotion expressed in so many different ways.
raised my kids with an open mind - they have been to most places of
worship. I did not want them to be bigots when they grow up.
each place of worship, my little girl would quietly nudge and ask,
"Dad, what are they saying?" - for a six year old, I learned to simplify
it, "Sweetie, they are appreciating God for providing food, clothing,
home and a world to live, and thanking him for good parents, family and
friends. " In all honesty, you cannot translate anything other than
this, no matter where you go.
One day, we were in the midst of
Bhajans (chanting hymns) sitting crossed legged on the floor in the
Hindu temple. When she nudged me, I knew what was coming … that
beautiful face was admiringly looking into my eyes… and like a cassette
player plays when the button is pushed, I said. "Sweetie, they are…."
Then what came was a big surprise of my life. She jumped up, raised her
hands, and said, "Gee Dad, it is so cool that God can be worshiped in so
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Why Is It So Hard To Convert to Judaism?
Courtesy: The Jewish Daily Forward
Published June 02, 2014, issue of June 06, 2014.
February 2013, Rabbi Elliot Cosgrove of Park Avenue Synagogue, as fancy
and important a place as its name suggests, floated an intriguing idea.
In a sermon to his congregation on Manhattan’s Upper East Side,
Cosgrove urged the Conservative movement, his movement, to become much,
much more welcoming to anyone interested in converting to Judaism.
cited the famous talmudic story of the would-be-convert who approaches
two dueling rabbis, Shammai and Hillel, asking to learn the entire Torah
on one foot. Shammai dismissively pushes the man away. Hillel, instead,
converts him immediately, teaching him that the Torah’s central message
is: “That which is hateful to you, do not do to your fellow. The rest
is commentary. Go and learn.”
“The order of events is often
missed, but it is instructive for us today,” Cosgrove said in his
sermon. “First Hillel converts, and then Hillel teaches. First you join
and then, once you are a vested member, you figure out what it is all
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sermon created a stir, and he repeated his proposal before various
meetings and conventions during the past year. He’s not the only one to
suggest that conversion become simpler, quicker, cheaper and way more
welcoming. There’s even a discussion about this in the latest edition of
the Conservative movement’s official magazine.
Enough talk. Time to do something.
who care about sustaining the future of the modern Jewish family, who
want to confront the tide of assimilation and disengagement with
positive, affirming Jewish values, or who simply like being Jews and
want to pass that along, need to radically rethink conversion. Instead
of playing hard-to-get, or acting as if Jews are part of a club with
admission standards higher than Harvard Law School, we need to open our
arms, drop our reluctance, lower the barriers and not just welcome
converts to join our synagogues. We need to encourage people to become
Jews, in their way, in their time — especially when marriage and child
rearing are involved.
“Some people don’t talk about money or sex.
Jews don’t talk about conversion,” notes Rabbi Joy Levitt, executive
director of the JCC in Manhattan, who has thought a lot about this
issue. “I don’t understand why. I think it’s a wonderful thing. I have a
lot of confidence in the tradition’s ability to work its magic on
Think this isn’t a problem? Read the latest issue of
Voices of Conservative/Masorti Judaism, which to its credit published a
couple of pointed articles criticizing the status quo. “I think it’s
hard for anyone who grew up Jewish to understand how intimidating — how
downright scary — it can be for a non-Jew to set foot in a synagogue or
make an appointment with a rabbi to discuss conversion,” writes Darcy R.
Fryer, a historian and teacher who converted in 1998.
of her story, “Too Long a Wait,” suggests one of the barriers placed
before the convert. Fryer studied for 14 months; many rabbis require at
least a year, ostensibly to experience the annual Jewish calendar.
There’s the cost — hundreds, if not thousands of dollars, in conversion
classes. There’s the tradition of turning away a would-be convert three
times, just to test her resolve and dedication.
Why stretch out
what is essentially an emotional decision? As Fryer writes, “most of my
figuring out how to live as a Jew came after I converted, just as
couples figure out how to be married after they get married and parents
how to parent after they have children.”
Even the words we use
stigmatize. We refer to a person as a “convert” rather than a “Jew.” We
give this new Jew a Hebrew name affixed with “son of Abraham and Sarah”
rather than with his (presumably) non-Jewish parents. When that name is
read aloud in synagogue, he is labeled. And we wonder why the process
can be alienating.
As Levitt says, “We should use convert as a verb, not a noun.”
is, let’s be honest, an underlying hypocrisy here: We ask more of the
convert than we do of the Jew by birth. That’s especially true as the
number of Jews “of no religion” increases and the intermarriage rate
soars for the non-Orthodox, two key findings of last year’s Pew Research
Center’s survey of American Jews. We don’t ask Jews by birth to study
for a proscribed time, to pass a test, to prove themselves. All you need
is one Jewish parent and little else in your life to qualify for a free
trip to Israel with Taglit-Birthright.
For centuries, there was
good reason for Jews to hold tight to the clan and avoid even the
appearance of proselytizing, lest they antagonize their neighbors and
the powers-that-be. But the situation is reversed now. Our reticence to
promote ourselves and our reluctance to welcome newcomers is the exact
opposite of what’s expected in the digital age.
founder and CEO of Buzzfeed, one of the nation’s fastest-growing media
companies, spoke to a media summit last year and used a comparison of
Mormons and Jews to make a point about the nature of social interaction
that is relevant here.
“There was one Mormon for every 10 Jews
[in 1950]. Now there are more Mormons in the world than Jews. Why is
that?” Peretti asked. It’s not because Mormonism is a higher-quality
religion than Judaism. “The real reason is that Mormons actually focus
half of their time on practicing their religion and the other half of
their time on how to spread their religion,” he said. “The idea matters
but so does the mechanism for spreading the idea.”
suggest that Jews don Mitt Romney-like suits and skinny ties and go
around spreading the Gospel for a year or two. But somehow we have to
harness the passion, dedication, indeed the confidence that Mormons
exude and overcome our reluctance to share our faith and culture with
anyone the least bit interested in joining us.
“Everybody wants their lives to be more meaningful,” Levitt observes. “We have what to offer here.”
is a campaign tailor-made for the Conservative movement. Orthodoxy
clings to the traditional notion that years of study and observance must
precede conversion. (And that’s in America. The Israeli rabbinate sets
the bar impossibly, cruelly high.) The Reform movement has little
incentive, given its embrace of patrilineal descent and the increasing
willingness of its rabbis to perform interfaith marriages.
Conservative Jews could be to the modern world what Chabad-Lubavitch is
to the traditional: a center of exuberant outreach. Such an embrace
could also help Conservatives with the central paradox of their
attitudes toward intermarriage: Conservative rabbis may not perform, or
even attend, an interfaith marriage, and yet expect that the new couple
will somehow gravitate toward their synagogues. This may be a principled
stand, but it’s not a sustainable one.
Ironically, in a series
of videos released by the Jewish Theological Seminary for the upcoming
holiday of Shavuot, several Conservative scholars cited talmudic
teachings emphasizing the need for straightforward and undemanding
We should have no fear of diluting Judaism by making
conversion easier. It is a radical transformation of identity, but so is
being born into a Jewish family, except the new Jew has made a choice,
one we should hasten and embrace.
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